Sugar Cubes

I thought i should write this down so as to document it, make it official!

i find people too complicated, frustrating and hard to understand. its hard to explain their reactions.

most of people are…well…double-minded. they say things that they don’t mean, and when you remind them of what they said they will get angry and start yelling telling you that they didn’t mean it literally! for God’s sake, there are things that can not be anything but what they are, can not mean anything else other than what they really are, so please unless you mean it don’t say it, you’re confusing me.

i guess its human beings’ nature, but truely people are giving me hard time trying to understand them, what they want and what they mean. and then they wonder why i’m so naive, i’m not naive, i just believe you, USED TO actually. recently, i’ve lost trust in people. i no longer believe what i think is right or true. why do people have to be complicated? why make scenes and then pretend they weren’t real? why the drama? why lying to yourself? if you don’t know yourself how do you expect me to know you? if you don’t mean more than half the things you say or do why should i believe you anymore?

on a second thought…maybe my mind is tooooo thick.

By Rana Husseini

AMMAN — Ramtha police have detained a 19-year-old man who reportedly stabbed and killed his married sister on Monday evening in the latest so-called honour crime in the Kingdom, official sources said.
The 24-year-old victim, who was not identified by officials, received multiple stab wounds on different parts of her body, allegedly inflicted by her brother, one official source told The Jordan Times on condition of anonymity.

The suspect then headed to a nearby police station and turned himself in, claiming to have killed his sister to cleanse his family’s honour after finding a man in her house, the source added.

“Initial investigations indicated that the brother found a man in his sibling’s home while her husband was out. He headed to a nearby market, bought several knives and returned to his sister’s house, where he stabbed her to death,” the source said.

The man, who was at the victim’s house, was unharmed, the official source added.

The victim’s body will be referred to the Irbid National Institute of Forensic Medicine for an autopsy on Tuesday, the source said.

“The autopsy and further interrogation of the suspect will help us learn more about the crime,” the source explained.

The woman became the sixth person reportedly murdered in the Kingdom for reasons of so-called honour since the beginning of the year, according to official figures.

Tuesday, May 17, 2005

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Will those honorless crimes ever stop?

i always wondered what kind of parents raise this type of men? i don’t wanna blame people that i even don’t know but we’re talking about brothers killing their sisters here! its not the first time and sadly it doesn’t seem to be the last time we hear of such crimes, obviously, there is something about our family relationships, the ties, how we raise our kids and what kind of values do we inherent in them. no matter how biased and sexist one can be i’m still shocked. its one thing to allow males total freedom while suppressing females and another to raise a generation of men who are capable of taking their own sisters’ souls in minutes.

What is Rayid?

Rayid is a unique system for identifying behavioral, communication and relationship patterns according to the structural constitution of the iris of the eye.

Throughout the ages, the eyes have been known as the windows to the soul, and modern behavioral research is proving this adage to be true. If you look closely at the iris of the eye, you will notice small, dark dots, light streaks or rounded openings in the fibers. These characteristics provide the key to unlocking the mysteries of the personality. The types of markings, their precise location, and variations between the left and right eye are directly correlated with different personality traits.

Rayid is a simple, objective and verifiable system. It is easily learned. No special talent is required to determine an individual’s personality type.

What the Eyes Reveal

Empirical studies have shown that patterns in the iris are genetically determined. By examining these patterns, we can see how the family tree influences character, relationship choices and health. For example, experience has shown us that patterns in the left eye reflect traits acquired from the mother’s side of the family, and the right eye reflects traits from the father’s side. By comparing the irises, we can determine the influence of each paternal relationship in shaping the personality of the individual. Rayid is therefore a model for understanding how human character is transferred and modified from generation to generation.

If a person’s left eye has more characteristics or a higher concentration of color, that person has a dominant right brain and uses the left side of the body more. Left-eye dominant people are generally flowing and agreeable, prefer to sleep with the left cheek down, and usually have a closer relationship with their mother. Right-eye dominant people are generally structured, organized and ask more questions, prefer to sleep with the right cheek down, and usually have a closer relationship with the father. Left-eye dominants are attracted to right-eye dominants in mate relationships.

People with a predominance of dot-like pigments in the iris (Jewels), tend to be thinkers and precise verbal communicators. People with a predominance of curved openings in the iris (Flowers) tend to be emotional, feeling-oriented and spontaneously expressive. People with a uniform fiber structure in the iris (Streams) integrate life through sensory experience, communicating through touch and movement. Those with both jewels and flowers in the iris (Shakers) tend to be dynamic, progressive, even extremist in nature.

Example Photo of the Four Primary Iris Types

The structure of the iris is a reflection of the individual’s life potential, revealing character strengths, as well as aspects of the personality that are underdeveloped. Rayid uses the iris of the eye to affirm and strengthen the innate character of the individual.

Applications

Rayid has been used by health practitioners, counselors, educators and business people around the world for over 15 years. Although many therapists choose to specialize in the Rayid Method, the fundamental elements of the system can be learned quite quickly; Rayid therefore readily lends itself to being used as an adjunct to other disciplines.

By using the iris of the eye we can determine what personality traits and creative abilities an individual has acquired. We can also observe the specific support that person needs in order to achieve his or her maximum potential. The Rayid Model not only helps people to understand the forces that shape their lives, it encourages them to take charge of their own future. By describing the ways in which genetic heritage affects a person, and by examining alternative responses to this heritage, Rayid objectively reinforces the decision-making skills of the individual.

Recognizing your innate strengths and weaknesses is often the first step on the path of self-improvement. The insights gleaned from studying your iris will help you strengthen your body, improve your health and to make appropriate career choices. In addition to helping you understand your own behavior and needs, a basic grasp of the Rayid Method can help you understand your children, your partner and even your business colleagues.

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Men don’t cry, women don’t fume

A man bursts into tears after a tough day at the office and concernedco-workers rush to support him. A woman sobs in the same situation and her distress is barely acknowledged. Why such differing reactions? It all depends on what we don’t expect, contends Purdue University psychologist Janice Kelly, Ph.D.

Her research suggests that when men and women display emotions inconsistent with the gender stereotypes we hold, we’re apt to think that those feelings are more genuine and legitimate. Men are expected to show anger and stubbornness, women to express happiness, sadness, land fear. So a crying woman is just more of the same, but a sorrowful man is such a rarity that we believe he must be on the brink of disaster. Likewise, an angry man is common, but a livid woman is so rare we think that she must really be furious.

Even so, a woman’s feelings still don’t carry the same weight as a man’s. Women typically are seen as “emotional” and their reactions viewed as overblown. “We tend to discount a large reaction in women,” observes Kelly, while men are more likely to be admired for showing their true emotions. A man who panics in stressful conditions is seen as honest or vulnerable, for example, while a frightened woman might be regarded as overreacting.

The way we view men’s and women’s emotional expressions may have an impact on our romantic relationships. Emotions may be given more weight according to who expresses them, not how sincere they are. Thus, that heart-toheart conversation with your partner may not be an equal trade, after all, since in the currency of emotions, a woman’s feelings are worth much less.

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