Marriage and Social Class
September 20, 2005Based on an online discussion supported by a poll, the new promising (or not so promising) generation of Arab women see marriage as a) the responsibility of the man not the woman, women are basically the object not the subject in this relatoinship and hence the potential groom’s family background, his bank account and his personal history are critical b) should only take them forwards in the social ledder (whatever that might mean) and this should be guaranteed beforehand c) marriage should be synonym with butterflies flying up to the pinky horizons which can be seen during journeys to Paris and shopping in Milano and can be happily substituted by total isolation from the in-laws. Anything less than that is misery, failure and idealism d) Its OK to marry someone from a higher social class because he will pull her up with him but its not true vice versa
It was surprising seeing that education made from some of greedy, superfacial and arrogant people! It is sad that many supposedly open-minded educated young ladies think of marriage as an unevitable event rather than a long journey with a friend that we love…
I don’t know since when our financial status decides on our friends, associates and partners?
Last time I checked, its our ability to love and care that earned us loyal loving and caring friends not their financial position neither ours.
Women are not followers of anyone, no one should be a follower in fact.Wives and mothers have always had the greatest influence on their families, and its not fair for men to provide a LIFE for women in exchange for emotional and sexual stability (even though they can’t be guaranteed this much!), as well as insulting to women’s intellect, value and giving nature. What happened to sharing individual dreams and facing life together?
See the poll and read more on this, if interested, here.
